The age at which you start losing friends

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The age at which you start losing friends

Postby Orientalist » Tue May 24, 2016 3:36 am

I don't know whether this is good or bad news for introverts, but studies show that we make more and more friends until the age of 25 and then the numbers start falling rapidly throughout our life.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/scien ... 43796.html

I don't think it applied to me, really, because while in my late teens and early 20s I was clubbing and had girlfriends, I didn't make new friends. Then moving to another city and later another country made it even more difficult to make friends. But later in life, when I stayed in one place and found like-minded people, I actually started to make new friends.

Supposedly I should have had about 19 friends at age 25 and that would drop to 6 when I am 80. But right now I have around 8, and that's a lot for me.

I think the study reflects the fact that we tend to be more social when young, less so when older, but the opportunities for meeting like-minded people online are quite good these days.
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Re: The age at which you start losing friends

Postby SandWshooter » Tue May 31, 2016 2:59 am

Shit, son, I only have like 3 IRL friends as it is
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Re: The age at which you start losing friends

Postby Engage » Tue May 31, 2016 3:04 pm

I wouldn't necessarily fit into the parameters you describe, since at 26-27 years of age I made about 4-5 good friends.

I'd guess that at around the time your friends start getting married and having kids is when you start losing friends. They no longer have time for hangouts and parties.

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Re: The age at which you start losing friends

Postby brian189 » Wed Jun 22, 2016 7:50 pm

I started having fewer friends around the age of 40. When I realized 2 things:

1. I changed my definition of the word "friend".
2. I realized I was an introvert and it was OK to be one.

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Re: The age at which you start losing friends

Postby Silverneurotic » Thu Jun 23, 2016 12:59 am

I never had a lot of friends, but I'm okay with that. Right now I have one best friend and some more casual friends I made through my husband in the last 4 years since I moved to the area. My only regret is that my best friend (10 plus years) lives in a different state and we usually only see each other once a year.

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Re: The age at which you start losing friends

Postby Imagiton » Fri Aug 19, 2016 11:56 am

I'm at the age of 24 and me (and my friends) are noticing this. Our previously stable, extended friendship group is splitting off, tensions arising left, right and centre. It doesn't worry me, because it seems that we're all redefining our value systems. Some of my friends are closed minded and judgemental. This is the last thing I need around me, my social anxiety is already telling me that people are judging me. So really, I'm better off cutting contact with these people and focusing my limited social energies only on those who make me feel valued. I could argue that this also happened to me at 21, and I think it will be a continuing process as life experiences change my value systems further.

Like brian189, I've redefined "friend" and I'm actually happier for it. Or will be, once my birthday outing to London that I've been planning all year is done with. Unfortunately, I've invited a few people who are splitting off to a show in November. It's all been paid for and there isn't a way to uninvite people. The plan is to remain civil so that I can have a drama free evening, with lines of communication open beforehand, then slowly fade away.

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Re: The age at which you start losing friends

Postby introvert1993 » Mon Aug 22, 2016 3:10 pm

At 24, I don't have real friends and family to talk to. I am living independently and I am not in good terms with them. I probably won't be seeing them again. I don't have friends because I am very afraid that they will just betray me, as what I have experienced in the past. I am not also comfortable being with people I know on a superficial level.

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Re: The age at which you start losing friends

Postby Daisy » Tue Aug 23, 2016 12:07 am

Welcome introvert1993. :)

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Re: The age at which you start losing friends

Postby Qewbahtiar » Sun Mar 26, 2017 4:36 pm

Hello there,

I start losing friends since 2015, after my mother passed away. That losing one by one friend, after im avoiding from humans being loner much better until now . Im selected friends that suitable with me,


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