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Bargs
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Advice

Postby Bargs » Thu Jul 23, 2015 8:43 pm

I usually ask my friends for advice but obviously we don't share the same views on things.

I met this girl through tinder (online dating *app) and we hit it off real fast. The conversation was an absolute delight so I ask her for a meet this weekend.
She said that Saturday she will be on a boat party with a lot of other friends and she wants me to go. She also has a ticket for me while the rest are sold out as a result i can not bring a friend of my own.

A boat, in the sea for 6 hours and no exit strategy, alone with only company i girl i really like, or will not like and vice versa. i feel nauseous just thinking about it. I also feel a total coward . I have to answer to her of course because i don't want to waste her ticket and i cannot lie. I have a thing with lies, i don't do it. ever.

Guys i need your advice. Are there ways to make this easier. Procedures that i can put my self through to make it easier? I'm thinking to tell her that i cant do it and try to explain it. I feel like a total coward. This is the first time i feel helpless and hopeless like this...

-H-

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Re: Advice

Postby llw14 » Fri Jul 24, 2015 2:41 pm

Since it's your first meeting with her it's perfectly acceptable to say that you'd rather meet up one on one in person before committing to something like that.

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Re: Advice

Postby supervillin » Fri Jul 24, 2015 3:57 pm

llw14 is on the money i think. no need to blow it out of proportion, or bring up your "introvert baggage" haha. just keep it very simple. tell her you really like her and would really prefer a more one on one hang out. my wife still loves to hear i prefer to just hang out with her instead of a group, if you can keep it romantic like that it can turn out to be a good thing.

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Re: Advice

Postby SandWshooter » Mon Jul 27, 2015 2:54 am

It'd be preferable to meet one on one, but this might be a risk you'll find brings you some reward, and you'll never know unless you go for it; it's my opinion that you should think it over a bit, weigh your options
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