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Postby Kurtis » Mon Apr 15, 2013 1:14 pm

I was watching a couple of videos ('Make a Man Out of You' Anime Fest 2011. Video 1 and 'It's My Life' Cosplay Fever Lip Dub. Video 2), and certain things fascinated me with both.

Anyone who knows me on any level shouldn't be too surprised to learn that I do like fantasy; the idea of experiencing a world created through imagination is appealing. What fascinates me though is the subtlety, noticing and appreciating something that perhaps my immediate peers would miss. On the second video, one of the moments that fascinated me was how the guy on the left moved at 04:15 and again at 04:29. As soon as I saw him move like that I became intrigued and instantly wanted to know what his story was.

On the first video, one of the things that intrigued me was 'Harley Quinn' at 00:43. When I first saw that outfit (baring in mind I didn't know who she was when I first saw the video mind), a few things went through my mind straight away. The first thing was her outfit, the red and black representing opposition: black and white, hot and cold, life and death, but mixed with the line she synched and how she expressed herself outwardly with 'like fire,' and then closed up with 'within;' it made me think how she rages inside her ('like fire within,)' but the way she smiled as she closes made me think how she's happy and content inside, she's taken the black and red (the opposites) and balanced them. For me that was an inadvertent, subtle moment that perhaps she may or may not have realised herself, but that's what fascinated me.

I find both videos quite fascinating in their elements, there were characters in both that I wasn't sure if I had seen them, but when I seen the ones I do know; their story and background, it only made me want to hunt down the ones I hadn't come across before all the more. As an addition, I think both videos were very nicely done, and it made me smile noticing how people were getting into and enjoying their time in it. I've got to admit, I do want to go to that festival now!

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Postby Sunny49 » Tue Apr 16, 2013 11:59 am

Lol, this two videos are SO Kurtis :P :D

And what fascinates me? Hmm.....I will have to think about it....

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Postby IWHMA » Tue Apr 16, 2013 7:05 pm

I have to say, I especially loved the Mulan bit.

That guy moving @4:15 and 4:29 on the second video, I would say he is a dancer, because he seems to do well at it. I don't know much else about him. If I recognized his outfit/what it's from, or that of who appears to be his friend, I might be able to tell more about his interests.

As for the girl, those colors in her outfit interested me, too, even before I read your comment. I initially felt something about there being 'black and white' in a common sense of the phrase, the "this or that" meaning, but then there was a third, less 'certain' and less 'known' option, the red. I think I like your thoughts on it better, though.

As for fantasy in general, it fascinates me some, but not as much as my own fantasies do. I have always wanted to go to a cosplay, though (I have some friends that go either as Zelda characters or Pokemon to some), although I'm too shy I think, hahah.

As an INFP, I think everything is symbolic of something, or can be used in a metaphor. For me, I look at nature a lot of symbolism, as cliche as that may sound. Nature I think is a good place to look because unlike human creation, undisturbed nature is perfect in design. I see it in everything though, from any media to any behavior. Sometimes when I point it out to people (very rare), they think my mind is just kind of messed up. I attribute it to the FiNe of being INFP, mostly.

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Postby SandWshooter » Wed Apr 17, 2013 12:05 am

Very random stuff seems to catch my attention, and I'll spend hours researching whatever just so happens to do so. Additionally, I do a lot of research on history in general and the history behind various objects
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Postby Molly » Fri Apr 19, 2013 12:50 pm

I find body language quite fascinating. It very often doesn't match up with what is being said verbally, so if I am in conversation with a someone who giving conflicting messages, I like the challenge of getting to the truth. I also find people in general fascinating, and can spend a happy hour or two just people watching.
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Postby Snowcrow » Sat Apr 20, 2013 5:11 pm

Molly wrote:I also find people in general fascinating, and can spend a happy hour or two just people watching.

Same here! I'm not too fond of participating, but I enjoy observing extroverts in their natural habitat.
Unfortunately they expect me to join their social activity whenever I'm around..
I wish it was socially acceptable to sit down with a group of people and say, "I'm not here to talk, just to observe" :D

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Postby Dutchman » Sun Apr 21, 2013 10:15 am

Snowcrow wrote:Same here! I'm not too fond of participating, but I enjoy observing extroverts in their natural habitat.
Unfortunately they expect me to join their social activity whenever I'm around..
I wish it was socially acceptable to sit down with a group of people and say, "I'm not here to talk, just to observe" :D


Nobody expects you to partake in their social activities. However, it's entirely acceptable to simply be there and nod or smile sometimes. You don't necessarily have to talk the entire time in a social setting; that's not the point of a social setting anyway. The point is kinship and celebrating life. How you do that, is entirely up to you.

Being in a social setting will encourage the most introverted to come out of their shells and have a few laughs with a bunch of people, even if that was not their intention in the first place :D . Laughing and being in company of friends will do anyone good.

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Postby Molly » Sun Apr 21, 2013 11:42 am

Dutchman wrote: If I may answer your points from a personal perspective, because I think this post requires some clarification from an Introverts view!

Nobody expects you to partake in their social activities. (They do. If they are doing things that they perceive as *fun*, they want to share it with EVERYONE!) However, it's entirely acceptable to simply be there and nod or smile sometimes. (It isn't. If you aren't joining in to their same degree or wavelength, extroverts always want to know why!) You don't necessarily have to talk the entire time in a social setting; that's not the point of a social setting anyway. The point is kinship and celebrating life. How you do that, is entirely up to you. (Agreed, but Introverts celebrate life on their own terms, which may be quiet contemplation, rather than social activity)

Being in a social setting will encourage the most introverted to come out of their shells(No, No, and NO again) and have a few laughs with a bunch of people, even if that was not their intention in the first place :D (Oh I think introverts are surprisingly stubborn at sticking to their intentions) . Laughing and being in company of friends will do anyone good. (I agree with this, but its more likely to happen on a one on one basis, rather than with a bunch of people.)


No offence intended by this - just my own opinion. I find it very tiring being with a bunch of happy people! :)
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Postby Justice » Sun Apr 21, 2013 12:07 pm

Snowcrow wrote:Same here! I'm not too fond of participating, but I enjoy observing extroverts in their natural habitat.
Unfortunately they expect me to join their social activity whenever I'm around..
I wish it was socially acceptable to sit down with a group of people and say, "I'm not here to talk, just to observe" :D

Hahah same here too! I want my superpower to bee invisibility, so I really can sit down and observe :D

Dutchman wrote:Nobody expects you to partake in their social activities. However, it's entirely acceptable to simply be there and nod or smile sometimes. You don't necessarily have to talk the entire time in a social setting; that's not the point of a social setting anyway.

Being in a social setting will encourage the most introverted to come out of their shells and have a few laughs with a bunch of people, even if that was not their intention in the first place :D


You're one of the few extroverts who think like this. Because it's a little like Molly said, the extroverts I know really want me to join in when I don't even want to join in. They expect that I like the same things as they do, because that would be the normal thing. And sitting in a group, not talking but only nodding and smiling is not considered normal.

But I do agree that I come out of my shell if the social setting is right. Those last 5 words of my previous sentence are essential :D

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Postby Sunny49 » Sun Apr 21, 2013 12:16 pm

Aww....Dutchman is the good extrovert :D I´m glad you think that way, it´s good to know there are people like you out there :) But, I think some extroverts might find it weird, but then again, who cares what they think? :D

Being in a social setting will encourage me to come out of my shell only if I like the company and feel comfortable in it. I´m not really stubborn and don´t mind happy people, lol.

I really wonder, why don´t extroverts (if they think we don´t talk enough) ask us something? It seems like they expect us to just talk and if we don´t it´s weird. How about you ask a question, lol? :D

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Postby Dutchman » Sun Apr 21, 2013 12:59 pm

Oh Molly, I DO take it personally, that's why I'll state my views in bold. :lol: :lol:

Molly wrote:If I may answer your points from a personal perspective, because I think this post requires some clarification from an Introverts view!

Nobody expects you to partake in their social activities. (They do. If they are doing things that they perceive as *fun*, they want to share it with EVERYONE!) That's not typical extroverted behaviour. Introverts do the same, it's called Facebook, WhatsApp and all that crap. They'll simply mention different activities such as reading a book, watching documentaries etc. This is not so much an 'I or E' thing .

However, it's entirely acceptable to simply be there and nod or smile sometimes. (It isn't. If you aren't joining in to their same degree or wavelength, extroverts always want to know why!) It is. But if the questioning happens, I don't see what the problem really is. Just say you don't feel like doing that. If they say something about it, why care? This won't happen in company of people you've known for quite some time, but yes it may happen when meeting new faces. Also, it's not as if an extrovert never gets asked why he doesn't want to partake in certain activities. An extrovert doesn't like every 'fun' social activity. Again, this is not so much an 'I or an E' thing. Curiosity about a certain person and his behaviour is human. The difference is an extrovert will question someone verbally and an introvert won't question someone verbally. You don't necessarily have to talk the entire time in a social setting; that's not the point of a social setting anyway. The point is kinship and celebrating life. How you do that, is entirely up to you. (Agreed, but Introverts celebrate life on their own terms, which may be quiet contemplation, rather than social activity).

Being in a social setting will encourage the most introverted to come out of their shells(No, No, and NO again) From personal experiences, yes, they actually do. Out of your shell =/= super jolly and talkative. For a very introverted person, out of their shell, by my definition, means being around people. and have a few laughs with a bunch of people, even if that was not their intention in the first place (Oh I think introverts are surprisingly stubborn at sticking to their intentions) Laughing and being in company of friends will do anyone good. (I agree with this, but its more likely to happen on a one on one basis, rather than with a bunch of people.)Yes. I understand an introvert inclines towards a deep, interesting conversation. This is not bound to happen at a party or something. I understand that.


Justice wrote:You're one of the few extroverts who think like this. Because it's a little like Molly said, the extroverts I know really want me to join in when I don't even want to join in. They expect that I like the same things as they do, because that would be the normal thing. And sitting in a group, not talking but only nodding and smiling is not considered normal.

But I do agree that I come out of my shell if the social setting is right. Those last 5 words of my previous sentence are essential :D

They want you to join because they like you, not so much because they think you'd enjoy what will be done. I mean, they know you, right? I know plenty of introverts who would rather read a book at home than spend time at the beach or a party. I know that, but they'll still be invited because it'd be nice to have them there. They're my friends! And if they do come over, they'll have a good time anyway.

Most people will appreciate you for simply being there. You don't have to be super jolly and talkative all the time to be liked by others.

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Postby Kurtis » Sun Apr 21, 2013 1:43 pm

Argh... quote embedding! :o

Nobody expects you to partake in their social activities. (They do. If they are doing things that they perceive as *fun*, they want to share it with EVERYONE!) That's not typical extroverted behaviour. Introverts do the same, it's called Facebook, WhatsApp and all that crap. They'll simply mention different activities such as reading a book, watching documentaries etc. This is not so much an 'I or E' thing .

Personally, the last place I declare my hobbies and anything I consider private is on a social media networking website, including Facebook. Anything I stick on Facebook is stuff I actually don't mind other people seeing; there isn't much on there by me as a result.

However, it's entirely acceptable to simply be there and nod or smile sometimes. (It isn't. If you aren't joining in to their same degree or wavelength, extroverts always want to know why!) It is. But if the questioning happens, I don't see what the problem really is. Just say you don't feel like doing that. If they say something about it, why care? This won't happen in company of people you've known for quite some time, but yes it may happen when meeting new faces. Also, it's not as if an extrovert never gets asked why he doesn't want to partake in certain activities. An extrovert doesn't like every 'fun' social activity. Again, this is not so much an 'I or an E' thing. Curiosity about a certain person and his behaviour is human. The difference is an extrovert will question someone verbally and an introvert won't question someone verbally. You don't necessarily have to talk the entire time in a social setting; that's not the point of a social setting anyway. The point is kinship and celebrating life. How you do that, is entirely up to you. (Agreed, but Introverts celebrate life on their own terms, which may be quiet contemplation, rather than social activity).

In my experience, the problem is an extravert wants to know why an introvert doesn't want to go to a social event, and the 'I just don't feel like going' doesn't really fly, nor does 'I don't know why I don't want to go, I just don't.' Introverts do find social interaction on that level tiring and pointless for the most part, so why go? Extraverts don't normally understand this, so they pressurise (or try to at least) an introvert into going to a social event until they've given up.

The reasons extraverts don't want to go to social events differs than the reasons introverts don't want to go to social events. I think the main reasons an extravert may choose not to go to a party is along the lines of extraverts don't like the person hosting it, or the party will be boring for whatever reason. Alternatively, if you want to be politically correct, extraverts will choose not to stay in on their own for the same reasons introverts will choose not to go out socialising. Introverts can choose not to go because the party will simply drain them.

They want you to join because they like you, not so much because they think you'd enjoy what will be done. I mean, they know you, right? I know plenty of introverts who would rather read a book at home than spend time at the beach or a party. I know that, but they'll still be invited because it'd be nice to have them there. They're my friends! And if they do come over, they'll have a good time anyway.

Most people will appreciate you for simply being there. You don't have to be super jolly and talkative all the time to be liked by others.

As an introvert, I do appreciate an invitation to a party, even if I turn it down. However I have gone out with a group of people in the past and wondered why I was there, even with close friends. I tend to stay in my own world and I don't find a trip to the pub that pleasant. When I'm actually expected to hold a conversation I get a bit irritated because I simply can't and won't do it. That said, I have been out with a group where everyone else has a conversation amongst themselves and I'm invited into it every once in a while... :p Problem is I usually have to catch up what the conversation is discussing at that point before I can even give my response.

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Postby Molly » Sun Apr 21, 2013 2:20 pm

Dutchman - you said that extroverts want you there because they like you, not because they think you will enjoy whats going on. So basically are you saying that extroverts only want numbers rather than a thoughtful activity that an introvert would prefer? I'm sure that you and your introvert friends get on well - my points only come from how I live my life. I would hate going to the beach or a party with people- the sheer thought of the level of interaction that it would require makes me tired, ha! And if you added the assumption that they will have a good time anyway, regardless....well. Dunno 'bout that! :)
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Postby Dutchman » Sun Apr 21, 2013 3:18 pm

I don't think you should think in terms of "I's only like x and E's only like y, and I's don't like y and E's don't like x". What a person enjoys is very personal and not personality type related per se.

I like to play chess for example and I know a bunch of other E's who very much enjoy that game. It's viewed as a game enjoyed by introverts and the majority of the players is introverted (yet the top grandmasters are all very extroverted). The beach and parties can be enjoyed by E's as well as I's, but it's more likely to find an E at a party than an I. As if I would sit at a chessboard six hours a day for nine rounds, being dreadful, simply because the prize money is nice. Ofcourse not. I enjoy the game and introverts enjoy the parties they attend.

The beach and party were mere examples. Most of the time we watch a movie/documentary at someone's house with a couple of close friends. But when it's summer and time to go to the beach or when there's a party/birthday we invite everyone, because they're friends and it's always nice to have them around. If some people don't want to, that's fine ofcourse. But if they show up, that's great. When an introvert shows up at the beach or a party it's not because he or she doesn't want to.

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Postby Justice » Sun Apr 21, 2013 5:40 pm

You're right about the fact that everyone has his/her own hobbys. Doesn't matter if they are an I or an E. I like to go the concerts for example, which isn't what all introverts like.
I'm more irritated by the fact that people (mostly extroverts who don't understand, sorry but it's true in my experience) assume I like to join them with whatever (beach, party) because I'm 23, single and at that moment not having any other plans. They never stop to think that I might like it that way.
So yea..they probably ask me because they like me and want me to join, but when I say no, they take it personally. I never get the chance to explain why I don't join them, because they're already thinking something else. And than the next invitation comes in and again I say no without getting thte chance of explaining why. It becomes a vicious circle. Again, they never stop to think why I don't join them.

In my typing I may have lost the topic of this thread a little :D

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Postby Kurtis » Sun Apr 21, 2013 5:49 pm

Justice wrote:So yea..they probably ask me because they like me and want me to join, but when I say no, they take it personally. I never get the chance to explain why I don't join them, because they're already thinking something else. And than the next invitation comes in and again I say no without getting thte chance of explaining why. It becomes a vicious circle. Again, they never stop to think why I don't join them.

In my typing I may have lost the topic of this thread a little :D

People stop inviting me eventually for that reason... lol! I do usually appreciate an invitation as I say, but don't be offended if I turn it down (that's the whole idea of an 'invitation' in the first place in my opinion.)

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Postby Justice » Sun Apr 21, 2013 5:56 pm

Kurtis wrote: People stop inviting me eventually for that reason... lol! I do usually appreciate an invitation as I say, but don't be offended if I turn it down (that's the whole idea of an 'invitation' in the first place in my opinion.)


I actually gave them the option of not inviting me anymore. I said that I would let them know if I do wanted to join them. In that case, nobody gets 'hurt' and I can make up my own mind without offending them when I decline the invitation. But that is probably not what they had in mind. Luckily some other people I know have a new way. They say they are going somewhere and then they literally say to me: I know you probably don't want to do that, but if you do, you're welcome to join. They at least get me :D And they understand why I don't want to go, they don't take it personally.

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Postby IWHMA » Sun Apr 21, 2013 6:14 pm

Dutchman, sorry if we sound defensive, but some of the whole point of us being here is to get support from other people who are looked at in the same way we are. You may be a 'good extrovert,' but there are things you don't understand about us. I think any extrovert has a hard time understanding. We just don't want to be told that socializing is good for us, or that extrovert fun is the only standard of fun, and that's why we might come off as defensive here.

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Postby Dutchman » Sun Apr 21, 2013 6:54 pm

That's ok, no offence taken or anything. ;) I think it's interesting to spark these types of discussions since this is the World Theory/fascination thread anyway. This discussion fascinates me.

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Postby Annie » Sun Apr 21, 2013 6:59 pm

It directly bores into my core causing extreme sadness :(
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Postby Sunny49 » Sun Apr 21, 2013 7:11 pm

What is wrong with you people? Stop being so sensitive.

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Postby Dutchman » Sun Apr 21, 2013 7:14 pm

Kurtis wrote:You are offending people though. Can you please be careful with the words you use and how you express them.

Hmm, ok. I don't see what posts of mine could have offended anyone on here though.

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Postby Molly » Sun Apr 21, 2013 7:46 pm

Dutchman wrote:Hmm, ok. I don't see what posts of mine could have offended anyone on here though.


I haven't taken offence to anything you have said.....quite yet! I do find, however, you might need just a little more help in understanding the workings of an Introverts mind. For example, have you considered the fact that inviting someone to a social event saying "Just come along anyway, you might end up enjoying it" can cause no end of conflict in an Innies mind. Not all of us are able to be comfortable with saying "No thanks" to an invite, and might sit for a while actually wondering if there is something wrong with them, after all, because "enjoying a party" is the last thing on earth they would do.
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Postby Dutchman » Sun Apr 21, 2013 8:20 pm

Alright. As I stated in my introduction post, pretty much my whole family and most of my friends are introverts. I think it's safe to say I know a thing or two about introverts in general.

What I've been trying to say is that it's ok to decline an invitation. It's simply that people would like you to be there when they invite you, but it's ok to say no. People say 'no' all the time.

I know a lot of introverts would rather be on their own reading a nice book or make music than attend the beach or a party, but they'll still be invited anyway. I've done this for as long as I've known them and there's never been a problem. They're my friends and I love to have them around and I know they love to be around their friends on occasion. That's why they're invited. I invite them in company of people they all know and are comfortable with. But if they have other plans or simply don't feel like showing up, that's entirely fine. My other extroverted friends have no problem with that either. If someone takes a rejection of their offering personally, that's their problem and not yours.

To fully answer your question, partying isn't the most 'normal' thing to do. I know extroverts who never liked to party, but simply being very energetic and social in pursuing their hobbies and dreams. There's no such thing as an extroverted or an introverted activity. A list of people's hobbies would be a mixture of introverted and extroverted activities. It's completely personal and not MBTI-type related per se. The difference between the E and I is the frequency and intensity in which they participate in certain activities.

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Postby Kurtis » Sun Apr 21, 2013 8:59 pm

Dutchman wrote:What I've been trying to say is that it's ok to decline an invitation. It's simply that people would like you to be there when they invite you, but it's ok to say no. People say 'no' all the time.

In my experience, when I've said 'no' to an invitation, I can get asked the reasons why. I do personally appreciate an invitation even if I turn it down as I say, but more often than not people get offended if I turn it down, and it usually reaches a stage where they simply stop inviting me. In saying that, people have not even bothered inviting me to places in the past because they 'know' I would turn it down anyway, that's a kind of assumption that I do find annoying, especially when they tell me they didn't bother for that reason. If I was in a class for example, and someone was inviting everyone in that class to an event and they didn't bother with me I would actually be more offended at that than anything.

I know a lot of introverts would rather be on their own reading a nice book or make music than attend the beach or a party, but they'll still be invited anyway. I've done this for as long as I've known them and there's never been a problem. They're my friends and I love to have them around and I know they love to be around their friends on occasion. That's why they're invited. I invite them in company of people they all know and are comfortable with. But if they have other plans or simply don't feel like showing up, that's entirely fine. My other extroverted friends have no problem with that either. If someone takes a rejection of their offering personally, that's their problem and not yours.

In this instant, you're actually one of those better people because you actually understand why you might get turned down. I'm sure the introverts you know really do appreciate your invitations, even if they are rejected. The problem is though, some people invite introverts for the sole reason of trying to 'open them up,' and it tends to happen a lot (or it does with me anyway) throughout an introverts life. When introverts become wise to people trying to open them up, they tend to shy away naturally. When it comes to inviting said introverts out to events, it becomes a case of 'working on them,' and some people to get offended when they can't work with an introvert.

To fully answer your question, partying isn't the most 'normal' thing to do. I know extroverts who never liked to party, but simply being very energetic and social in pursuing their hobbies and dreams. There's no such thing as an extroverted or an introverted activity. A list of people's hobbies would be a mixture of introverted and extroverted activities. It's completely personal and not MBTI-type related per se. The difference between the E and I is the frequency and intensity in which they participate in certain activities.

What people are trying to say I think here is that extraverts are just naturally outoging / talkative / blabber / need to be around one another, and one of the more natural places an extravert can do this is through partying (and it's one of the easier examples an introvert can relate with because virtually everyone has been to one at some point in their life).

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Postby Sunny49 » Sun Apr 21, 2013 9:06 pm

Molly wrote:I haven't taken offence to anything you have said.....quite yet! I do find, however, you might need just a little more help in understanding the workings of an Introverts mind. For example, have you considered the fact that inviting someone to a social event saying "Just come along anyway, you might end up enjoying it" can cause no end of conflict in an Innies mind. Not all of us are able to be comfortable with saying "No thanks" to an invite, and might sit for a while actually wondering if there is something wrong with them, after all, because "enjoying a party" is the last thing on earth they would do.


Honestly, I don´t see how this is their problem? Are you saying nobody should invite you anywhere because it´s difficult for you to say "no"? I think people who have a problem with that should just learn how to say it. A lot of people will ask you to do something you don´t want to (evan introverts) and you will have to say "no". I had an INFJ friend who wanted to socialize more than me, so I had to say "no" to her. I do, however, think that in a real (healthy) friendship between an extrovert and an introvert there should be communication, understanding of each other´s differences and tolerance. Extroverts should be tolerant of introvert´s need for alone time and introvert´s should be tolerant of extrovert´s need for socializing.

Personally, I´m sometimes afraid to decline an invitation, cause I worry they will just get tired of me, forget about me and stop calling me :( But, I guess that´s where the communication part comes in.

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Postby IWHMA » Sun Apr 21, 2013 10:27 pm

Annie wrote:It directly bores into my core causing extreme sadness :(


Awwww, *hugs*

Sunny49 wrote:What is wrong with you people? Stop being so sensitive.


Hey, aren't you sensitive, too? Be more sensitive to our sensitivity, haha.

Hey everyone, you know what? Fascinating discussions are great. Let's try and do so in such a manner where no one assumes they know everything about another person or another type: let's keep an open mind. Let's not assume we know what's best for other people/types, either. Sometimes we can have good intentions advising someone to do something, but what we don't realize is that while it may work for us, it will not work for that person. Let's try to be open, unaggressive, and respectful. :)

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Postby SandWshooter » Sun Apr 21, 2013 10:51 pm

I forgot to mention gun stuff and the history behind it (such as different variants and things having to do with adoption for service by whatever organization) also fascinates me
Hi, mac!

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Postby Annie » Mon Apr 22, 2013 12:10 am

I was only joking in my comment.

Hmm I'm interested in serial killers and what motivates them.
I don't like seagulls...

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Postby Justice » Mon Apr 22, 2013 7:20 am

Dudes and Dudettes, we are almost starting a war between introverts and extroverts :lol:

I do get what Dutchman is saying actually and I do think he is right to some point. He knows his friends obviously better than we do. But he may be stumbled upon different introverts here who think differently about the subject. So some introverts like to occasionally hang out with friends, other introverts don't like it, not even a little bit. That's just who we are, and it is important everyone respects that.
So in conclusion, we are all right to some degree, but we have to take in the fact that introverts aren't all the same. So we will never agree in general because we all are different (or we know different) kinds of introverts.

I think this is a save assumption to make or am I wrong?

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Postby Dutchman » Mon Apr 22, 2013 1:01 pm

Something tells me you studied Law and majored in Mediation.

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Postby IWHMA » Mon Apr 22, 2013 2:29 pm

I agree, Justice.. Wars are bad (I am an INFP; wars are worse than 'bad')..

That's what I mentioned before about generalizations. I don't think it's fair of anyone to say anything about such a broad group of people, especially as far as telling someone what's good for them.

Let's be peaceful!

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Postby Justice » Mon Apr 22, 2013 2:53 pm

Dutchman wrote:Something tells me you studied Law and majored in Mediation.


I didn't majore in Mediation, but I've had some lessons in it :lol:.
The rest is true 8-)

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Postby Dutchman » Tue Apr 23, 2013 5:10 pm

Where did you study Law?

If I had never seen an episode of Suits I'd not even have known what mediation was.

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Postby Justice » Tue Apr 23, 2013 5:45 pm

Dutchman wrote:Where did you study Law?

If I had never seen an episode of Suits I'd not even have known what mediation was.


:lol:

I studied law in Tilburg!

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Postby Satchmo » Sun Apr 28, 2013 9:56 am

IWHMA wrote:I agree, Justice.. Wars are bad (I am an INFP; wars are worse than 'bad')..


I respectfully disagree, to a point. War and conflict in general force you to realize what is actually worth fighting for, whether an opinion, religion, or freedoms. Conflict may bring out the worst in a lot of people, but there is no fight unless there is something worth fighting for. I'm not condoning war or violence, but I believe that there is a place for it in the world.

On the main subject, I guess what I find fascinating is trying to figure out how things work, whether they are mechanical or intellectual. Pretty general really.

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Postby LoneApothecary » Mon Apr 29, 2013 10:19 pm

I've always been fascinated by nature and morbid things. Morbid things found in nature form the pinnacle of what fascinates me. Parasites, decomposition, diseases, etc. It tends of freak people out when I talk about these sort of things, particularly odd medical procedures (such as maggot therapy).
"By all means let's be open minded, but not so open minded that our brains fall out."

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Postby Kurtis » Mon Apr 29, 2013 10:35 pm

LoneApothecary wrote:I've always been fascinated by nature and morbid things. Morbid things found in nature form the pinnacle of what fascinates me. Parasites, decomposition, diseases, etc. It tends of freak people out when I talk about these sort of things, particularly odd medical procedures (such as maggot therapy).

Lol I wonder why it freaks people out! :ecstatic:

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Postby LoneApothecary » Tue Apr 30, 2013 12:56 am

I know, right? I ask myself the same thing all the time.
"By all means let's be open minded, but not so open minded that our brains fall out."

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Postby Dutchman » Tue Apr 30, 2013 7:40 am

You have plenty of time to be fascinated by morbid things when you're dead.


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