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Looking for the telltale signs

Postby MrInsertNickHere » Sun Apr 06, 2014 5:48 pm

So.. Why not.

Hi everybody!
I'll keep it short, and present the question; What Are The Telltale Signs of An Introvert?

I was going to start rambling about myself and my situation, but it wouldn't do if I'm not an introvert, and I'll save you the trouble of reading the wall-of-text that'd turn into. I've done a minimum of research, but I guess this forum is filled with introverts, so I'd like to ask for your help. I might ramble later on if it'd help.

Any help is appreciated.

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Postby Lorn » Sun Apr 06, 2014 8:54 pm

Off the top of my head I'd say:

1) The first to leave or take a break at big social events, possibly lounging in a different room where it's quieter.

2) More solitary hobbies that they've put more time into cultivating.

3) More reserved with their thoughts and feelings.

4) More introspective and concerned with their inner world and feelings.

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Postby Kurtis » Sun Apr 06, 2014 9:36 pm

Rambling is good :) We're a lot more tolerant to walls of texts and information than a lot of other people out there. Just don't overdo it. :ecstatic:

I think Lorn has more or less got it down in this case, you've basically got to look out for people who are 'quiet' and 'reserved' and often considered 'loners' though perfectly happy and content to be all three. Introverts generally do like their quiet time and keep socialisation to a minimum (through necessity rather than choice). When they do socialise, they generally have a point or a reason. For most introverts (in my experience), small-talk is absolutely boring and kept to the absolute minimum (usually to what is considered polite at best). At least for me personally, I like to skip the small-talk if possible (except the very simple 'hello') and just get straight to the point.

You should remember that everyone is different, and that includes introverts. There's no two people exactly the same way.

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Postby MrInsertNickHere » Mon Apr 07, 2014 12:45 pm

I can check off on everything Lorn says, but sometimes I feel like being social, problem for me is I have a hard time getting to know people. I don't say much when I first meet a person usually, but after a while I will open up more, and once I actually open up to someone it's all out (depending). Not wanting to be very social when I first meet someone probably comes off as very cold and/or arrogant I guess, but it's just how I am. Not a huge fan of small-talk, since I really don't see the point of it, except when I want to be "part of the crowd" and blend in with other outgoing people.

Edit; And yeah, the internet has no bars for me, I know most people say you should be careful on the internet but it feels like the only place where I can talk freely, and I am a great deal more open to strangers here.

Only thing that bugs me is that quite alot of other things can contribute to make me this way, instead of just being an introvert. I'd love to just call myself an introvert because, in fairness, I don't mind my life. I'm kinda happy with it, but there's those moments when I wonder if I could be someone else, live another life. For information, I've recently gone through what I'd call a bad breakup (not initially, but after lies were uncovered) and maybe that's why I'm wondering if I could be someone else.

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Postby Kurtis » Mon Apr 07, 2014 2:35 pm

MrInsertNickHere wrote:Only thing that bugs me is that quite alot of other things can contribute to make me this way, instead of just being an introvert. I'd love to just call myself an introvert because, in fairness, I don't mind my life. I'm kinda happy with it, but there's those moments when I wonder if I could be someone else, live another life. For information, I've recently gone through what I'd call a bad breakup (not initially, but after lies were uncovered) and maybe that's why I'm wondering if I could be someone else.


I think it's perfectly natural to want to be someone else from time to time. Sometimes life beats down people so bad that they think they need to be someone else. The problem is usually the other way round, 'everyone-else' usually need to change whilst the individual not so much.

I don't think it's possible to change who you are at a very fundamental level, to try doing that would be unhealthy and would cause more problems than it solves. For example, a common problem with introverts is 'speaking out more.' If introverts did that, great they're more vocal in the world but the introvert now has to spend a lot more time alone to recoup energy, and if he can't get that through demands of other people, then it'll just reach a tipping point. There's also the problem of the introvert him/herself feeling fake and underappreciated given they're not allowed to think before speaking. It's important to strike a balance in my opinion (like everything else), in this case understanding the needs of ones-self and the needs of others. Often people forget that the needs of other people are as important as their own and vice versa.

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Postby Justice » Sun May 11, 2014 3:34 pm

MrInsertNickHere wrote:What Are The Telltale Signs of An Introvert?


If I take a look at myself I would say these are my telltale signs:

- wanting to be alone a lot;
- having hobbies that can be done by myself;
- more reserved with new people and taking a long time opening myself to others;

As for the other post you posted.. I'm never very social when I first meet someone. Most of the people think I'm very cold and/or arrogant and that's just who I am. I can't help myself. I probably have some trust issues.

Sorry to hear about the bad break-up. I don't think you should be wanting to be someone else. I respect everyone just who they are and you shouldn't change yourself for someone else.

I don't mind of you want to ramble some more, it would be nice to learn more about you I think :)
Well anyway I see your post is from a long time ago, maybe you're not even active on the forum anymore


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