His first relationship, our first time + long distance

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His first relationship, our first time + long distance

Postby NotAlwaysEasy » Sat Mar 12, 2016 7:57 pm

Hi,

I'm 27 and currently live in Germany while he's 31 and lives in the UK.

We met each other during my regularly holidays at my nans place who lives in Sussex.

That's been last december and since then we chat via Skype each day after work and do video chats every sunday. 

He's a bit of an introvert but after a few months we found a way to speak with each other without giving especially him a hard time and also we share lots of interests together.

I already fell in love with him and we're going to see each other next month again properly for the first time and a couple of days since I'll be in Wales for a 7 days holiday.

He's pretty intelligent, likes to read, studied biology, the way he sees things and thinks about them is impressive to me and I'll never get tired hearing about his new ideas. He said he thinks what we're doing now is sort of a prelude into a relationship but he doesn't like to do accommodations but at the same time he said he's very grateful that he met me because he feels less lonely now and I am one of the good things in his life. Also he never talked that much to another person which is what worries me as well. 

He never was in a relationship before and I'm not sure if he ever even had sexbefore. He said he likes intelligence and beauty on women but when I asked him out. Also he described a curvy but fit muscle toned body as the most perfect one. I'm a size 14/16 and rather curvy than fit. Also I have some stretch marks and a bit of cellulite on my bum and thighs. I think since he never interacted with girls, he might be scared away when he'll see me and notices that not all women are perfect, especially since I might be his first experience.

That makes me so insecure which is bringing me down sometimes. We already discussed about the long distance issue as well, if we get on we'll just visit each other during holidays and see how it goes. I'm an orthodontic and could imagine to live and work over in the UK someday, since my parents are british and I'm used to pendeling, I wouldn't mind.

Sorry for the long text, at the moment I just don't know what to do and what to expect.

Do you think we could have a future?

Cheers

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Re: His first relationship, our first time + long distance

Postby Annie » Sun Mar 13, 2016 12:32 pm

Hi. I'm sure someone will be able to answer your questions soon. Welcome to the forum!

Relationships aren't really my strong point, especially long distance. I wish you luck and hope you have fun when you meet him again next month :)
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Re: His first relationship, our first time + long distance

Postby Daisy » Sun Mar 13, 2016 8:15 pm

Welcome NotAlwaysEasy....... Yes it's possible that this relationship could work, though I think it's strange that a 31 year old man has had no experience with women.

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Re: His first relationship, our first time + long distance

Postby Orientalist » Tue Mar 15, 2016 2:45 am

Hi NotAlwaysEasy. It's possible that with no experience at 31 he has problems other than just being introverted (social anxiety, etc). It's also possible that with no real-world experience of women he has unrealistic expectations. Nevertheless, you have met him in real life, so he has a good idea of what you are like already. If he can't handle a bit of cellulite, he's not worth having, really.

Long-distance relationships are tough. I live in Asia, so I've seen quite a few. Guys fall for a woman via Skype, then visit her and have a "holiday romance" experience, but when they eventually get together permanently they find they didn't really know each other. I think it's best if you can get to see him and be with him as much as possible before making any decisions about the future. You don't want years and years to go by and then it turns out you don't get along or that he was never serious about living together.

On the other hand, you can't push an introvert too hard. For him, living with someone will be a major leap out of his comfort zone and he will probably want to do this step by step. And you need to find out whether living with him will mean being shut off from the world with only him for companionship outside of your work place.
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Re: His first relationship, our first time + long distance

Postby ZaHEER » Sat Mar 26, 2016 9:53 pm

NotAlwaysEasy wrote:Hi,

I'm 27 and currently live in Germany while he's 31 and lives in the UK.

We met each other during my regularly holidays at my nans place who lives in Sussex.

That's been last december and since then we chat via Skype each day after work and do video chats every sunday. 

He's a bit of an introvert but after a few months we found a way to speak with each other without giving especially him a hard time and also we share lots of interests together.

I already fell in love with him and we're going to see each other next month again properly for the first time and a couple of days since I'll be in Wales for a 7 days holiday.

He's pretty intelligent, likes to read, studied biology, the way he sees things and thinks about them is impressive to me and I'll never get tired hearing about his new ideas. He said he thinks what we're doing now is sort of a prelude into a relationship but he doesn't like to do accommodations but at the same time he said he's very grateful that he met me because he feels less lonely now and I am one of the good things in his life. Also he never talked that much to another person which is what worries me as well. 

He never was in a relationship before and I'm not sure if he ever even had sexbefore. He said he likes intelligence and beauty on women but when I asked him out. Also he described a curvy but fit muscle toned body as the most perfect one. I'm a size 14/16 and rather curvy than fit. Also I have some stretch marks and a bit of cellulite on my bum and thighs. I think since he never interacted with girls, he might be scared away when he'll see me and notices that not all women are perfect, especially since I might be his first experience.

That makes me so insecure which is bringing me down sometimes. We already discussed about the long distance issue as well, if we get on we'll just visit each other during holidays and see how it goes. I'm an orthodontic and could imagine to live and work over in the UK someday, since my parents are british and I'm used to pendeling, I wouldn't mind.

Sorry for the long text, at the moment I just don't know what to do and what to expect.

Do you think we could have a future?

Cheers


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